It’s hard to be a woman. So much is expected of us: we need to be the perfect wives/girlfriends, selfless moms/friends/daughters, successful businesswomen -- all while being beautiful and thin. We’d like to think that since other women face similar challenges, that they would support us in ours. We’d like to think that we’d do the same for them. But sadly, this is often not the case. We tend to compete more than collaborate. We pick each other apart with the same critical eyes through which we see ourselves. Deep inside, we think that by knocking her down a few pegs, we might not feel so deficient in comparison. But it never works. In subtle ways, Sell-Out Sisters sabotage the collective power of us all. It’s not just the mean girls who’ll throw a fellow sister under the bus.30 Signs of a Sell-Out Sister:
- comparing and competing
- judging or insulting ourselves and other women
- accepting the media’s superficial definition of femininity
- minimizing our opinions
- judging another woman’s choice to work or stay at home with kids
- making snide comments about another woman’s looks
- supporting companies who demean women in their advertising
- agreeing with the media that any amount of fat is unacceptable
- buying into the $55 billion-dollar-a-year diet industry
- agreeing that physical imperfection is ugly
- making fat jokes or laughing at them
- gossiping about a woman sleeping around
- going to movies that treat women as primarily sex objects
- accepting sexism and misogyny without questioning
- calling other women sluts, cunts, bitches, or whores
- not speaking up when we’re offended or we disagree
- sabotaging another woman's career advancement
- devaluing our internal qualities
- interfering with other women's reproductive freedom
- trying to silence other women
- embracing the porn star/stripper conception of femininity
- flashing our breasts
- watching shows in which women compete based on looks
- being publicly sexual with other women merely for male attention
- treating ourselves as objects for men’s arousal
- believing that being sexy is the most important quality in women
- idolizing celebrities and models as beauty ideals
- idolizing celebrities and models as actual role models
- seeing beauty ideals as obtainable if only we tried hard enough
- buying tabloids that gossip about which celebrities have packed on the pounds
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I had just finished writing this post when I received an email forward from someone close to me. It was a perfect example of a Sell-Out Sister. The woman who sent me this has been morbidly obese for much of her life. Since she was a child, she's been ridiculed and treated poorly due to her weight, and this treatment continued into adulthood. This makes her selling out particularly sad.
Here's the email:
|Subject: FW: Garlic Warning!!!!! Must Read This is terrible !!!!!!!!|
OMG...this is really terrible. And I have been touting the benefits of garlic for years!!! I hope this doesn't happen to anyone I recommended it to.
For years, doctors and scientists have told us that some foods are good for us, only to be told later that they bad for us, and again they tell us that some foods are bad for us, and all the time they've been good for us... and there doesn't seem to be much proof either way to suggest what is good or bad... until now, that is.
Garlic is definitely BAD for us if it's true that "You Are What You Eat!"
You have been Garlic'd. Now you're it!! One rule to this game ... You CANNOT get someone who has already gotten you! So get as many people as you can! (before they get you) I got you first ... You can't get me back!